2015 was quite a climb….
It will forever go down as the year I learnt the most.
The most about myself.
The most about friends.
The most about family.
The most about love.
It will be the year I learnt who means the most. The year that I lost my beautiful Nana – a woman that meant the world to me. In turn it became the year that showed me how important family time is. How to appreciate every little detail.
So for 2016, I have decided that I will set resolutions for myself that aren’t like the ones I’ve set in the past. I will not be pledging to lose weight or exercise more. I will not be setting any new career goals or plans to learn new skills — though I hope that both of these things happen naturally this year. I will be setting resolutions that will push me to dig deeper (not in a Shuan T way) but that it allows me to work harder on myself.
Here goes nothing!
Be Slightly flaky.
Learn you do not have to respond to every text message and return every phone call on “time”, or ever. You don’t have to make it to every event or every birthday party. It is ok if you agree to something and then decide later that you don’t actually have the mental or physical capacity for it. Even if you just don’t want to do it anymore. Do not push yourself beyond your limits because you are worried about what people will think. Flake when you want to, flake when you have to.
Be Intimate – All Relationships.
Acknowledge the reasons you’ve become so detached, and slowly chip away at what ever it is that made you build up a guard. You don’t have to lower your standards to feel safe. You don’t have to find love right away. You don’t have to sit through meals with people you don’t like. You don’t have to feel obligated to go anywhere. Form friendships, build up trust, and have patience.
Find The Good – In Things You Hate.
Embrace the heat. Embrace people who don’t listen. Embrace the grumpy faces. Figure out what you don’t love about them; figure out why it bothers you so much and learn how you can better appreciate them for their place in your world.
It might mean staying right where you are, it might mean moving down the street, and it might mean moving halfway across the world. Wherever it might be, find the place where you can feel most comfortable, the most secure and the happiest. Invite people in and let them feel as relaxed as you do.
Happy new year to you all… Enjoy the year ahead with your Littleloves <3