If in doubt – Just dont…

If you are questioning whether or not you should, You probably shouldn’t.

I remember my parents often saying this to me when I was growing up. I 100% did not listen or run with this statement and in many cases it would have saved me. Truth be told I have ignored it more times than I would like to admit, it has stuck with me throughout the years.

If in doubt – Just don’t.

Now, please don’t take this deeper than its intent. Sometimes we doubt ourselves when we really should be happy with our choices. For now, I am just talking about something that affects anyone that has a social media account.

You know that impulsive rant, questionable picture, or funny post that may be offensive or taken the wrong way?

I’ve learned it’s just best to “don’t”.

Is it worth the likes we receive even if it means we’ve alienated that person or group of people we have been working so hard to reach?

Do we really want to hurt someones feelings in one photo or comment for the sake of a follow or a like?

We have the right to say what we want anytime we want on our social media platforms and YES the last time I checked, we do have the right to our own opinions. All of those things are absolutely true.

But – Is it worth it?

I can’t even count how many times I have posted something thinking it was funny or cute only to delete it minutes, or even seconds, later.

In a house full of girls, you can only imagine the things that go on. Crazy things, politically incorrect things and don’t get me started on all the whinging. My god the whinging! Sometimes I think our humor is probably an acquired taste, it is borderline and often slightly inappropriate. We often make jokes to lighten the mood and i’m pretty happy with the fact that our little loves know how to laugh at themselves. Which is extremely important in my eyes.

That being said…

There have been many times I have  wanted to come online and give out about people I have met at events, bitching that goes on when you feel you are apart of a village, a women in the aisle at spinneys that felt she could speak to the cashier the way she did,  parents driving their children about with no carseats or seat belts for that matter, a Nanny who clearly hadnt had a break, or even worldy news that makes me worry about what will be left of this world for our little loves. There are a million and one thoughts that traipse through my head every day which I often think  they need to be heard!

But I stop myself and think – Do they really?

I want to be transparent, so I share a lot of real life. I do think anyone that has decided to share (or over share) should remember to be honest and open but there have been many times that I have frantically typed out my thoughts (with perfectly placed caps, exclamation points) only to have that gut feeling the second before I hit publish or post (or sometimes the second after) triggering the internal debate as to whether I should leave it up or delete before someone reads on. The 9 out of the 10 times that I ignore my gut feelings…I have instant regret.

I understand that we are living in an age where everyone is offended by everything and thinking that we can go through life without offending someone is about as likely as my middle one listening to me.

However, we have a responsibility as humans to show love. We have a responsibility to show respect and if we can at all help it, we should live and speak in a way that promotes love, helps others and makes a better attempt at not hurting them.

Are we to speak the truth in love even if it is the opposite of what the world is saying? Absolutely. 100% do what you feel is right – but I dont think anybody has changed their mind about anything because of a bithcy rant on insta-stories.

Save the hidden (not so hidden) bitchy comments and questionable pictures or funnies for close friends and family. Those who you know in the flesh. Those who know YOUR heart!

So if you are questioning whether or not you should, You probably shouldn’t.

Hard to get it right 100% of the time but we can atleast try, because quite frankly it is easier to be kind and being a good human is always worth the effort.

Love, Helly xx